Tuesday, January 19, 2010
What's Your Opinion?
I have read all the books and I know that they do not recommend dying your hair during pregnancy. However, they say right in the book that they have no proof that it leads to any birth defects. So little of the dye is actually absorbed through the skin that is is unlikely that it would have any adverse effect.
They do also mention that some practitioners still recommend against it though.
I have not actually asked my midwife yet. I am having a bit of a hard time with her. It seems I always have a lot of questions but she rarely has a lot of time. So I start with the most important questions and then when I feel I am being rushed I just stop. I know this is not a good thing and I need to be more ...self.. (I will come back when I think of a word).... more assertive? Is that the word I am looking for? (put my needs first and settle all my concerns instead of worrying about her time or all the patients still waiting in the waiting room. I waited an hour to see her they can too)
The reasons I want to dye my hair are many. Mostly, I am not happy with my looks right now. I am bulging already which would be okay if I had 'the glow' but I don't. I have acne so bad right now I can't even hide it with makeup. I have never had acne this bad not even as a young teenager. I am so used to have really great skin (on my face) so this is hard for me to accept. I am also not so great with the makeup thing so I do not know what to do to make it look better. I am a greasy mess by the end of the day and can't wait to get home and wash my face. I am surprised people don't mistake my acne for the chicken pox.
My hair has lost it's luster and shine AND I have 2 inch roots that stand out. I think dying my hair may make me feel a little less monster like and a little more human. But I worry.
I worry about what people will think. I worry about what could maybe possibly happen to the baby. I have waited out my whole first trimester, which they say is best if I am going to dye my hair. But I really don't know what to do.
Ultimately I will make my own choice (after talking with Ryan) but I am curious what others did. Did you dye your hair when you were pregnant? Do you know people who do?
Maybe if I can't dye it I should get some highlights and a really trendy new cut. .. I don't know.
I need something. I feel blah.
Monday, January 18, 2010
What to Talk About?
I am still having incredible headaches and am running out of ideas of what to do about it.
I bought an Obus Form pillow that is suppose to help you keep good posture at night and relieve neck pain and headaches. I like the pillow but have not noticed any difference. A few of my friends suggested that I use Peppermint cream or oil. After trying several stores we finally found some at a health food store. The problem is that pregnant women should not use it. I will be calling my doctors office today to find out why and if my midwife thinks I can try it. I have another chiropractor appointment today so maybe another adjustment will help.
Regardless, we still managed to have a good weekend. Friday night was a quiet night at home. Saturday we headed into Vancouver to pick up the boys Olympic tickets from Robson square. On the way to stopped to look at some maternity pants that I found on Craigslist. She had 16 pairs of pants from high end stores for $110. I was stoked until I tried them on. She had them all hemmed and every pair was about 1" too short (or more). They were all so nice it was hard to walk away. Guess I will have to keep looking. Ryan and I hung out on the couch and watched the Canucks game that night. It was nice to see them emerge out fof their slump.
Sunday we slept in and missed church. Not that I have been over eager to go lately anyway. We (I) have not enjoyed our church much in the past year. So much has changed and it is kinda weird now. I don't usually enjoy it, but go because I feel guilty for not going. We went out for breakfast and grocery shopping instead. Sunday afternoon Rawley had a friend over to play for a couple hours. It is always nice when he has someone else to play with and talk to, it gives us a break. We spent last night on the couch watching Dirty Jobs and Mythbusters. Rawley loved Mythbusters last night. It was about rockets and blowing up cars. It can't get much cooler than that!
All in all we were fairly boring all weekend and have no pictures to prove it. :)
Maybe our week will be more exciting.
Baby News:
Baby is still kicking and poking me often enough that I know all is well. Soon Ryan will be able to feel it from the outside which will be nice. He feels left out right now.
I have kind of hit a platue with growing for right now. I exploded very early and looked quite pregnant from 12 weeks on, but now at 17 I have kinda halted the expanding. It is nice for now.
Some of the names Rawley highlighted in the Baby Name Book:
Esmeralda
Asplendida
Essy
Emmylou
Halley
Hailey
Hail
He seemed to really like the "e" and "h" names. Maybe it was too soon to hand him a highlighter.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Tempermants
Last night we looked at four different temperaments of personality. Everyone is a make up of four temperaments but we always have one that is more prominent than the others.
Last night I learned a lot about not only my own temperament , but Ryan's and Rawley's as well.
It was very interesting to me.
Sanguines love to have fun. Put them in a room with people, and they have a great time. They are easy to get along with; people generally like them. Sanguines are very expressive, enthusiastic and emotional; and they have a sense of humor, are creative and enjoy people. They need attention, affection, approval and acceptance. On the downside, they are usually considered scatterbrained or disorganized, not detail oriented, often gullible or naive, and seldom serious minded.
Rawley is definitely the above. Not all the characteristics match him but I have made bold the ones that do. After my cousin pointed out to me that this was how she viewed Rawley I totally agreed and it was like a little light bulb went on. Learning about different personalities makes it easier to understand why certain people act certain ways. Sometimes his personality and mine do not mesh because we are very different, but this is how he was made. This is who he is so I am going to have to learn that I need to be more patient with some of the things he does because they make him the wonderful little person he is.
Phlegmatics are natural peacemakers. They are quiet observers in the group, content to sit back and take one day at a time without getting their feathers ruffled. Phlegmatics get along with practically everybody. They need a sense of respect, feeling or worth and emotional support. being easygoing and content are great qualities, but when taken to the extreme, the phlegmatic can be seen as indecisive, lazy and unmotivated. And under all that reserve, there is a hidden stubbornness.
I think Ryan is Phlegmatic (as per bold characteristics). I have always said that we get along so well because I am moody and kind of bossy. I like things to be done a certain way (the right way) and Ryan seems to be okay with going with the flow. He is relaxed and laid back while I am tense and high strung. I never realized that this quality that I love about Ryan so much is the same quality that drives me crazy sometimes. Ryan never plans anything or makes decisions. If he is not asked to do something he will kinda just chill out and do nothing. This is where I see him as being 'indecisive, lazy and unmotivated'. So, I am going to have to learn to take the good with the bad, because f that is one of the reasons we get a long so well, then I will have to accept that he needs more motivation because that is just who he is and how he works. If this truly is his temperament I need to also make sure I give him a feeling or worth and support him emotionally (something I did not know he needed).
Now me:
Melancholics are thinkers. Many artists, poets and musicians are melancholics. Their analytical minds make them great at math and engineering fields. Much more reserved than extroverts, melancholics prefer a quiet atmosphere and chose friends cautiously. they often exhibit a servant's heart from which other temperaments an learn. They have a need for a sense of stability, space, silence, and support. on the downside, melancholics can become moody and easily depressed. Perfectionist attitudes can also give way to criticism of self and others.
Knowing this about myself has also giving me insight on why I do things the way I do and why certain things bother me. I have always tested as an extrovert in my life but lately I have noticed that may not be accurate. Being places that are busy and loud always stress me out. I need to have quiet and calm to think and feel peaceful. This is often a problem at home when our child is a Sanguine who is very loud expressive, enthusiastic and wants to be with us all the time. It is also nice to know that I am moody because of a predetermined temperament. This does not mean it is a great trait to have but it means that I am normal.
I printed these descriptions off and am going to post them on my fridge at home. I think it is good to be reminded why people act the way they do and love them for who they are. I also plan to talk about it with Rawley a bit. I would like to explain to him that we all need to meet each other in the middle somewhere . We will try to understand that he needs interaction, attention, and affection and we will try to give him that but he will also have to understand that I need to have peace and quiet sometimes. I need time to think and be peaceful. When Rawley undertsand why something has to happen orhy he has to do something he is always more inclined to do it because there is a reason. This sometimes is frustrating because as a child I was taught, "because I said so" and that was that you didn't argue. When yourmom or dad told you to do something you just did it. You didn't have to like it, but you still had to do it. I try this with Rawley in hopes that he will just figure it out but it is a battle. So, when I can I try to give him a reason for why somethinghas to be done or be stopped. Thiscreates a more relaxed atmosphere for myself.
Sidenote: Rawley got his hair cut on Tuesday night and he is now sporting a pretty cute mohawk. I will take some photos tonight (if I remember)
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
Little Kicker
We have been trying everything to make the baby move so i can feel it. We have put head phones on my belly and played it soft gentle music and some fun dance music with no result. I have laid very still and just waited patiently and that hasn't work either. We also tried the more aggressive options, the ones Rawley says we are mean for doing, like poking the baby and shinning a flashlight through my stomach on the baby to make it react. I have read that all of the above work, yet I still have not been able to feel anything.
Minutes after talking to my friend this morning though and telling her that I will just wait patiently....I felt the baby move.
It was wonderful!!!
It felt like a prolonged poke followed by a fluttery feeling. To people who have never felt it or all males that might sounds crazy. It was very cool though. It is also the first time I have felt anything like it.
When I was pregnant with Rawley I never felt him move until I was about 32 weeks and even then he just adjusted himself every once in a while, he never kicked or moved much at all. At the time I was concerned and asked my doctor about why I never felt him move. The doctor assured me everything was fine and that I was probably just going to have a really calm baby. HA! More like the baby was just saving every bit of energy for after it was born. Rawley is and always has been the complete opposite of calm.
Anyway, since that first little poke 30 minutes ago I have felt the baby move a lot more. It is so exciting!
Side Note:
I went to the Chiropractor last night and he said my headaches were not Migraines but Cervicogenic Headaches. Many things can cause it but mine are caused by bad posture while I sit at my computer at work and being tense with stress. I will see him a few more time for adjustments and muscle relaxation therapy, then I have to start special exercises and stretches to stop it from happening again.
My upper vertebrates in my neck are out, I have tense muscles and my nerves all all mangled...
But relief is within reach! :)
http://www.frequent-headaches.com/cervicogenic_headache_symptoms_exposed.html
Monday, January 11, 2010
Wonderful Weekend.
Funny how that happened because I did not have high expectations for how this weekend would play out. Usually when Rawley cannot do any of the above he gets antsy and angry. Plus with my headaches I have not been feeling so hot.
Saturday morning Rawley woke up early but after I made him breakfast he went back to him room and played quietly for over an hour. It was great. He was so well behaved at his soccer game which they won 18-0. After that we headed out to Langley to look at a bassinet I had found on Craigslist. The bassinet is $159 new and she was selling it slightly used for $70. When we got there I offered her $60 and she agreed. It was beautiful and in really great shape.

~Yay for first baby purchase~
Upon folding it to transport it home I got my thumb stuck in the bracket which hurt bad enough that I was crying and Ryan could not figure out what was wrong or how to unlock it and open it to release my thumb. I was not being very helpful by crying and screaming, "flatten in, lay it flat". At least now I know that major injury upon closing is possible and I will NEVER do it again.
We made a quick stop at Toy Traders in Langley. For those of you who do not know you can buy new and used baby and kid items there as well as trade ins. We saw the same bassinet we had just got for $90 there in the same shape. I was feeling happy about our great deal.
Then it was off to IKEA. Rawley loves this place and we had planty of time to stop at each kids station for him to play. It made the trip so much more enjoyable for everyone. We did not buy too many things but had fun looking at all the possibilities. We ended up getting a couple stuffed mice for the baby. It sounds awful but they are so cute and tiny.
~Playing at the kids stations~

~Rawley drew a wonderful graveyard on the communal paper at Ikea~
I have no pictures for yesterday but we watched some gymnastics and figure skating then went for a long walk with a stop at the park for Rawley to play.
I like when life is rough; you are seeing your child act out more often than not THEN they stop and do something really great that renews your faith in them. We walked to the mall yesterday to go to Coles Bookstore. We stopped to use the washrooms at Sears and Rawley found a balloon on the ground from their sale event. He asked me if he could ask someone if he could have it and I said yes. He walked up to an employee and politely said, "Excuse me" then waited patiently for her to acknowledge him. He went on, "I found this balloon on the ground and was wondering if it would be alright if I may kept it ." Once she said yes he politely added, "Thank you!" and walked on with a huge smile. I know it is just a little thing but it makes me proud to know that he is able to act like a human being and he can be quiet, gentle, polite and adorable.
Friday, January 8, 2010
Reba!!!!
This time we get to go see Reba!!! Right here in Abbotsford. I am so excited.
Reba tickets went on sale over a month ago and I looked to see what they were worth and good seats were too much. I couldn't spent the money. I really wanted to but with baby coming and a lot of stuff to buy I just couldn't.
All this month country 107.1 is giving away floor seats to her concert. They give you the Reba song of the day at 8:10 am and then Curtis Pope (dj) plays it some time between 12 and 6. Once the song is over you have to be the 7th caller through to win tickets. Today I WAS THE 7th CALLER. For those of you who hate country music I guess it is no big deal. Not only do I Love Country music I love Reba. I love her songs old and new, I love her show, I love when she emcees award shows. She is awesome!! And now i get to go see her!!!
Also, everyone that wins floor seats this month will be entered to get an upgrade to front row seats. I will keep my fingers crossed. But front row or not I am going to get to see Reba!!
Oh yeah and other news.
The boys are going to the Olympics. This is also something we have thought about for along time. Rawley really wants to go and he so has his heart set on seeing any event that he can. We have talked about it a lot and knowing money was tight we thought we should not. However, I have had a change of heart. Rawley may never get this chance again in his life. All he talks about is the Olympics. So, last night we broke down and ordered 2 tickets to the women's qualifying rounds of curling for Saturday Feb.13th . This was the only weekend curling event that had original priced tickets available. Rawley is paying for his own ticket and the services charges. (he has been saving up to go to a Canucks game for over a year, but Olympics are more important to him) Ryan and I will split the cost of Ryan's ticket.
I am opting out because the idea of going any where near those crowds is enough to stress me out. I would loss my mind if I actually had to go into town and attend one of these events. I am happy that Ryan is willing to take Rawley and more than happy to pay for 1/2 his ticket to take Rawley. Rawley has his red mittens so he can 'wear his heart on his hands' and is over the moon happy.
I still have a throbbing migraine. It is day 3 and it sucks, but regardless I am very happy. Life is good.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
A Day in The Life
During our morning routine Rawley also decided that he would get his lunch out of the microwave by climbing up onto the counter. Even though he has a stool and there are 4 kitchen chairs to use to reach that high. The result: a hole in my kitchen floor. When he pulled on the door of the microwave the microwave tipped forward and he fell off the counter thus throwing all my casserole dishes stored on top to the floor with a smash. (Sorry to the people that live below us) The casserole made it out without a mark however left a giant cut, dent AND bubble in the linoleum. :( Rawley is so lucky because the microwave almost fell off the counter and on top of him.
Maybe NOW he will understand why we tell him he may not climb on the counter and MUST use a stool or chair to reach up high. Maybe!
At least today is January 7th. Ultrasound day! Yay.
I drank my 4 8oz glasses of water starting at 7:25 but that is also when we left the house and left the only bathroom available to me. I took 16oz with me in the car to finish closer to 8 (when I had to be done by). By the time I dropped Rawley of at daycare and picked Ryan up at work I had to pee so bad I had back pain. I didn't even know that was possible. I gave in at 8:10 and peed at McDonalds before eating my hashbrown and finishing my last 8oz of water. We arrived way early to the appointment and I asked for permission to pee again. She let me fill 1/2 a paper cup. Yes!
They were very efficient there and got me in right away.
Great news: There is only one baby in there.
It has a great heartbeat.
It has two legs and two arms
It is the prefect size for my due date. :)
After she did her initial exam I got to pee out another whole paper cup and then Ryan was allowed to come it and we got to watch the baby flip, kick A LOT, twist , turn, wave and eat it's hand. Pretty magical stuff.

~Laying Face down~
~Hand in mouth~
~sitting up waving~
So the crazy early morning, the near ER visit with Rawley, the whole/bump/cut in the floor was all worth it. I would take all that again if by 9 am I could watch my precious little baby do flip flops on a monitor.
Cloud nine; that is where I am!